There are a lot of ways to improve intimacy with your partner. Doing
something new is one of them. The point of getting put of your comfort
zone is that you might be surprised at the kinds of things that get you
off.
Not everyone will like the same thing, however, so it is okay to
discontinue this if it is not your thing. You can never know until you
try though.
1. Oral. If this is somehow something that you’ve never experienced,
then it should be the first activity to try. Seriously, how have you
managed to get this far without it? Oral sex is amazing, for all
parties, and should be a usual part of any sexual relationship.
2. Massage. A slow, sensual, and well-oiled kind could do wonders for
your arousal level. This is a subtle and easily-implemented addition to
the list.
3. Dressing up. Some costumes and uniforms can be a real turn on. Women
often love authority figures, while guys often love French maids
outfits, leather dominatrix costumes, or simple silky adornments.
Discuss what works for you and give it a go.
4. Dirty talk. Not everyone is comfortable with this to begin with, but
letting loose with the potty mouth can be a real turn on for some people
– especially during the height of passion.
5. Fantasy talk. Discussing fantasies mid-act, and talking about the
filthiest things your imagination can muster during sex can really get
the juices flowing. You don’t have to act upon them – make this clear to
each other beforehand – but just airing them is enough to turn a normal
lovemaking session into pure dynamite.
6. Spanking. Perhaps one to go into gently to begin, but if you feel
like upping the stakes, then try a firmer hand. Remember, though, that
women have fuller posteriors than guys do, and feel the sting less than
men. Also remember that guys have bigger, stronger, and rougher hands.
Be as appropriate as the situation demands.
7. Three’s company. If you’re both open-minded enough, try introducing a
third person into the bedroom. Just make sure the rules are clear
beforehand. For example, whether one of the couple is just to watch, or
whether it’s open season for all three.
8. Exhibitionism. This is illegal in many countries, so check first, but
revealing your sexual activities to others can be a real turn-on.
9. Tantra. Inner massage, as some have jokingly named it, tantra takes
practice and patience, but can have a hugely successful impact on the
quality of your lovemaking.
10. Frottage. Or to put it in simple terms, rubbing against each other.
Skin to skin, and genital to genital, but resisting penetration,
frottage can be a very horny way to get the ball rolling.
11. Mutual masturbation. Takes a lot of discipline to stop yourselves
from escalating it into full-blown sex, but combined with some of the
above tips, such as fantasy talk or exhibitionism, it can be a real
turn-on and definitely worth trying at least once.
12. Sex toys. And there are so many to choose from. Dildos, nipple
clamps, love eggs, strap ons, cock rings, butt plugs and paddles—just to
name a few. There is something for everyone and for every mood. Must be
tried at least once, and probably many times more once you realize just
how good they can be
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